Every relationship will have conflict and some more than others.
The problem isn’t the conflict in your relationship. It is how you manage conflict that is important.
One of the most powerful tools you can use is validation.
Validation is the acknowledgement of your partner’s feelings and perception.
This tells your partner
“I hear you. “
“I see you.”
“You matter to me.”
Validation creates emotional safety.
When feelings are dismissed, ignored or minimized, your partner will shut down, or become defensive.
Validation creates emotional safety and trust.
Validation reduces escalation and tension in conflict.
Validation builds trust and respect.
Validation encourages healthy resolution.
Conflict isn’t about winning or proving your point.
Validation creates a safe space for compromise and problem-solving.
What Validation Looks Like:
“I understand why you feel this way.”
“I’m sorry I didn’t understand where you were coming from.”
Validation doesnt mean you agree with everything your partner says.
It means you value their feelings.
Validation is love in action, choosing to listen, and showing up in a way that makes your partner feel understood.
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