If you are asking yourself why do I feel lonely in my relationship, just know that it is not an uncommon feeling in relationships. There are many causes for this which will be addressed below. It can also be that you both have stopped socialising with friends and family since your relationship became serious. Another reason can be due to your work hours and you both have become like ships passing in the night.
Why do I Feel Lonely in my Relationship and Solutions to fix it?
Maybe you are not feeling heard in the relationship because you are being talked over by your partner when you try to explain your feelings.
Is your partner a gamer and stays up all night playing online? This will contribute to feeling disconnected in your relationship.
Does your partner go out to the pub with friends after work and or on weekends without you and you are left at home alone with the children?
Once the issues are identified, you can then begin to correct them.
Talk to your partner about the way you feel. Have you both pulled away from your social circle? If so, make plans with friends and family to catch up. Maybe a BBQ at someone’s house, or a park or catch up with friends for coffee in a café.
When was the last time you both took time off to go away for the weekend? Maybe go away with friends for a weekend camping. It could be it is time to reconnect with friends on some level.
Are you lonely because both of you are just too busy? Maybe one or both of you have too many activities going on during the week away from each other. Are there activities you can do together? If there are children, can you get a trusted friend or family member to look after the children once a week so you can have date nights? If this is not possible, after the children are in bed you can watch a movie together on Netflix with munchies or take away and cuddle up in each other’s arms on the lounge.
A huge part of loneliness in a relationship is disconnection. Maybe you feel you do not have anything in common with your partner. It might be time you start finding something you both enjoy or try something new together that you can call your own.
Could it be you do not feel fulfilled in your role at work or at home? It might be time for a new challenge.
When Should I look to get Help?
It is important for a couple to go to bed at the same time if it is possible. This is a good place for reconnection emotionally and physically and maybe talk about your day. Try not to go to bed angry. Grudges will separate two people emotionally and physically. If there are issues between you it is a good idea to work through these before you go to bed. If you are having difficulties in this area, and are constantly asking yourself why do I feel lonely in my relationship, it might be time to connect with a Professional Counsellor.
