You don’t mean to be defensive.
Underneath the frustration is hurt, the feeling of not being heard, seen or understood.
You protect yourself the only way that feels natural to you. You become defensive and then shut down.
You pull away from the only person you need love from.
Defensiveness isn’t the problem. It’s the pain beneath that has never been heard, or validated.
Even the little issues become loud arguments. They leave both exhausted and wondering “Why do I bother? It’s just a waste of time. They l never listen to me. They talk over me and get louder.”
Counselling helps to uncover the pain and recover the relationship.
It’s time to stop fighting each other and start understanding each other again.
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