We step into relationships with hope in our hearts, believing we have found “the one.” We imagine our future of shared dreams, laughter and unconditional support. However, this is not always reality and it is different to the picture we had in our mind.
There are moments when love doesn’t feel safe, but rather a battlefield. Instead of hearing words that heal, we are shot down with words that leave us emotionally bleeding.
The person you put all your hope and dreams into, leaves you feeling belittled and unsafe.
You reflect on the good moments. The moments of laughter and silliness. The charm, the promises, the words that made you feel special.
Then you flick back in your mind to the broken trust, the pain that shatters your heart, the loneliness and the feeling of not feeling seen, heard or understood.
And so the question comes in and out of your mind, “How long do I hold on for?”
“When is enough, enough?”
Love in its purest form, doesnt demand we sacrifice our self worth.
Love doesn’t belittle, silence us, tear down our identity. Love protects, nurtures, encourages and makes you feel safe.
Sometimes walking away takes more courage than choosing to stay because it’s familiar.
Choosing yourself is not selfish; it’s survival, but sometimes choosing to stay can feel like survival too, though you’re still in pain.
If you are struggling with the decision to leave, I want to remind you, you are worthy of respect; you are worthy of tenderness; you are worthy of love that feels safe like home and not a battlefield.
Sometimes the hardest and most painful thing you’ll do is to let go of “love” that feels like it is destroying you so you can begin to heal for the kind of love that is safe.
If you are needing support, I can offer you empathy and clarity.
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