Childhood was not a safe place for you. You learnt your feelings were wrong. You learnt to disappear and hide away your emotions and your feelings.
You were punished for crying.
Now you’re in a relationship and you find yourself shutting down and running away from conflict.
You need to feel heard.
You need your emotions validated.
Instead, you are left unheard and invalidated….. But so is your partner.
They desperately need to feel heard and validated too but trauma stops the brain from hearing.
When trauma gets in the way of listening, two people are left in deep emotional distress.
They are caught in a “trauma cycle” of yelling in an effort to be heard and understood.
Not only understood – but to be seen.
Not only to be seen – but to feel loved and cared for by their partner.
When one or both people shut down, two people become victims caught up in their past trauma, or their partner’s trauma.
Communication is always the key.
It is important to allow each person the time and space for emotional recovery.
Once both people have time to process their fears and avoidance, it is important to calmly return to the conversation, preparing your selves to listen to understand.
Support is only one click away to provide tools and understanding to help you both break from this trauma cycle.
Take the first step by clicking on the link below for a booking today.
