A lot of issues can lead to one or both partners not caring about the other.
The main issues can be not feeling heard, feeling dismissed, not valued, not desired, or not made a priority in the relationship.
Resentment and contempt build up.
What does it look like when a partner no longer cares?
They stop listening to their partner.
You stop listening to anything your partner has to say. You’re not interested in meeting their needs.
They don’t follow through with what they say they’ll do.
Your partner asks you to do something for them and you agree just to get them off your back.
They tune their partner out.
Your partner is trying to communicate but you tune them out, distract yourself with your phone, the TV or you walk away.
Your partner doesn’t make the priority list.
You deliberately make time with friends, family or anything else so you’re not left home alone with your partner.
Physical intimacy feels like a chore.
You avoid it by putting off going to bed in case your partner is in “the mood.”
They show no empathy to their partner because they have turned those emotions off.
If your partner is crying you make no move towards them to comfort them or you might even walk away.
They find themselves instantly resisting anything their partner says to them.
No matter what your partner says, you just find their voice aggravating.
They make no offer or reject every opportunity for quality time.
Your partner insists on date nights but you make excuses why you can’t go out.
They stop compromising and refuse to work in with their partner.
You have stopped working as a team because you see yourselves as two separate people.
They have stopped being respectful and instead are very critical of their partner.
Your tone of voice is very snappy with your partner every time they open their mouth making them feel like they can’t say or do anything right.
The partner is only concerned with their own needs.
You’ve stopped making your partner hot drinks when you make yourself a hot drink.
You have stopped making their meals when you are making your own.
You only communicate on a “need to know basis”.
They only stay in the relationship because financially it is convenient.
You’re using your partner financially.
They stop caring about their appearance.
You have stopped looking after yourself to look good for your partner because you don’t care anymore.
They imagine what it would be like to be with someone else or on their own.
You think you would be happier anywhere else than in your relationship.
This type of relationship is only going one direction and that is to divorce if this is a marriage.
It is not sustainable. It is very taxing on both people.
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