Couples generally put more effort into winning their partner over, dating and details of the wedding day than they do long term in their marriage.
When you feel comfortable with your partner it is easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted and to stop putting the other person first or not consider the other persons interests, needs, opinions and feelings. What follows is the other person no longer feels valued or a priority. This may even cause the person to pull away emotionally and physically.
When we take our partner for granted we stop listening and we only consider how we feel. Take for example a husband who likes a drink every night after work with the guys and stays out until midnight or longer while his partner is left at home to eat dinner alone and go to bed alone or worse yet, is left to look after a baby and a toddler on her own all night after either being alone with them all day and is waiting for support or she may have had a long day herself at work too.
The husband’s excuse might be, I’ve worked hard all day, don’t I deserve a drink at the end of the day!!
How do you think his partner would feel? Do you think she is feeling valued or a priority?
A husband who helps around the house, vacuums, hangs the washing out, washes up, cooks the meals, does the groceries, mows the lawn, or puts the washing away, does he need validation for what does, after all, it’s got to be done any way, right.
The answer is yes!! He does need recognition for even the smallest act of helping around the house. He needs to feel appreciated and valued as much as his partner.
When two people feel appreciated and valued they will consider the other person in their every day coming and going. They will be connected emotionally and physically.
Not taking each other for granted keeps the relationship alive and long lasting. The romance will be ongoing and trust and vulnerability will be strong within the relationship.
Valuing your partner breeds kindness, unconditional love, consideration, communication, respect, affection and self worth.
