Low self-esteem
Feeling you’re not good enough or comparing yourself to others.
People-pleasing
Saying no to people causes anxiety. Sacrificing your own needs to please others.
Poor boundaries
Blurry or weak boundaries. Feel responsible for other people’s feelings and problems.
Reactivity
React to everyone’s thoughts and feelings. If you disagree with someone’s opinion, you believe them or become defensive rather than understanding it is only their opinion.
Caretaking
You put other peoples needs ahead of your own. You feel rejected if a person turns down your help. You insist on helping those who are not taking your advice.
Control
Codependents need to control those close to them so they feel emotionally safe. People-pleasing and care-taking can be used to control and manipulate people.
