Telling children you are no longer together with the other parent.
When you both decide the relationship cannot be saved, you will need to have that conversation with the children that all of you will be living in two separate homes.
How you tell them can affect them throughout their childhood, teen years and adulthood.
Make sure they know you both love them and the separation is about being better parents and friends.
Be available for each child to come to you when they are trying to come to terms with adult decisions.
Let each child know that both of you will still support them in their sports, dance, school activities, concerts, carnivals, and parent/teacher interviews.
Children need consistency and they need to see both parents on friendly terms so it is important that there is no parental alienation going on with the children.
Turning children against the other parent, especially when one parent has a new partner, and telling the children the other parent has replaced them, is psychologically damaging to them.
When one parent has a new partner it is better for the children not to be introduced to them for a minimum of 6 months. This gives the relationship time to develop into something more permanent.
It affects children psychologically to see their parents jumping in and out of relationships.
One trap parents often fall into is withholding children from the other parent because they’re hurting.
This not only hurts the other parent but also the children.
They are not a bargaining chip to be exploited.
In every decision you both make, put the children first.
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