Would you recognise lovebombing before the relationship began and after the relationship ended?
In the beginning, lovebombing may look something like being made to feel special early on such as an overdose of compliments or gifts, taken to restaurants, or you may be referred to as their soul mate, beautiful, stunning and even told they’re in love with you on the first day.
They may express how supportive they are of your activities, career, family and or friends.
Once you are hooked, and enmeshed in the relationship, they slowly begin to change. Maybe they become critical, jealous of the time you spend with family and friends, and or jealous of your career.
You share your dream of travelling overseas, your goal to buy a home and even to have children which they fully supported before they had you hooked but now they’re talking you out of your goals, and dreams and telling you they are all you need. You don’t even need to work!!
Down the track, after you decide to walk away, (not an easy decision because of the gaslighting causing you to second guess your decisions), they begin to emotionally manipulate you to pull you back in again.
They tell you at first everything was your fault and if you really loved them you would have given up everything to be with them.
They send you a barrage of continuous abusive and manipulative messages because they say they love you.
If this isn’t enough to make you feel guilty and return to them, they change tactics and the messages are apologising for what they have done to you. They say they’ll change because they now know the way they tried to control you was wrong.
The messages keep coming day and night as well as the phone calls.
They may contact family, friends and even your workplace to get to you.
If this is you, run! Do not return.
Believe the behaviour you saw in the relationship.
Recognise the pattern of manipulation.
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