How often have you been in the middle of an argument and you’re thinking
“Are we even in the same conversation!”
You realise you haven’t been heard or understood and you don’t know why.
You’re thinking “What aren’t I getting here?? Why don’t they understand me??”
Quite often the messages we received in our childhood stop us from actually hearing what our partner is saying.
Their body language and or tone of voice cause us to misinterpret what our partner is trying to tell us.
Instantly we get on the defence and become reactive.
What we need to do in these times is say to our partner “I hear you saying ……. is this what you mean?”
This gives our partner the opportunity to explain gently what it is they’re trying to communicate.
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