Separation is a painful experience because of the ending of the relationship and it is made more traumatic when one party decides to blindside their partner with abuse through the legal and court system.
Separation abuse causes unnecessary stress, trauma, financial devastation, and even separation from their child/children using parent alienation and the legal system, turning the children against the other parent.
There are long term psychological effects on the children, separating them longterm from the other parent and painting the other parent as a neglectful and abusive parent.
Post separation abuse also includes, control, threats of violence, stalking, and harassment through texts and calls.
Perpetrators use children to control, harm, harass and threaten their ex partners.
The abuser can also use the threat of taking away family pets off their child causing longterm psychological harm.
The abuser blames the mother to the child for sending them away saying “Mummy doesn’t love daddy anymore” and
“Don’t listen to mummy!”
Re-victimization is experienced at the hands of the abuser during the process of child custody.
Emotional abuse during post separation abuse includes sending abusive text messages and calls.
The victim feels too scared not to respond in fear of further escalation of abuse if they ignore the text messages and calls causing the victim further psychological harm.
The abuser may also contact their work place, sit outside their place of residence, and even vandalise the victim’s home.
The abuser will be charming in court and in front of family and friends, leaving the victim feeling unsupported, abandoned and alone through isolation.
Post separation abuse includes financial abuse including emptying out bank accounts, and forcing the victim to seek legal support because of court appearances.
Coercive and emotional abuse includes false accusations against the victim in court including but not limited to drug and alcohol addictions and being an abusive partner and or parent though the abuser is the one with ongoing addictions and has abused their partner longterm.
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