Saying to a victim “They’re not perfect either”, is not helpful when they are leaning on you for support after coming out of an abusive marriage or relationship.
“Not being perfect” doesn’t excuse abuse.
None of us a perfect but we don’t go around practicing psychological, verbal, emotional, spiritual, physical, sexual or financial abuse.
We don’t all deflect our behaviour onto others.
We don’t try to control others through threats of performing physical or financial harm on other people.
We don’t all go around dividing family members so we can control others.
We don’t all take or give away what isnt ours or what is important to someone else.
We don’t all refuse to protect our partner from other peoples words or actions.
We all don’t turn a child against the other parent.
We all don’t break our partners confidence to those we know will cause them harm.
We don’t all spread lies about our partner to large groups of people to isolate our partner.
