Everyone has at least one love language, even if you are not aware of what it is.
We often give our partners what we need from them.
You may be a very affectionate person but your partner did not come from affectionate parents and therefore affection makes them feel uncomfortable. This leaves you feeling lonely in the relationship because you desperately want to connect in this way with your partner.
Your love language may also be acts of service. So what does this look like?
Acts of service can be anything from doing chores in the house to show your partner you love and appreciate them to hanging out the washing or doing the gardening.
Another love language could be quality time with your partner. You desperately want to connect in this way but your partner prefers to do things on their own or with friends.
You might be someone who likes to shower your partner with gifts but your partner complains it’s not their birthday so what’s with the gifts!!
We need to understand that love language is the language of each person’s heart so when our love language is rejected or not acknowledged, the person giving in any form takes it as a personal rejection.
So what am I saying? Not giving your partner what they desperately need from you is not going to connect you as a couple.
If your partner’s love language is affection (you’ll know this because they’ll be asking for affection), then give them the affection regularly they need.
If their love language is acts of service, acknowledge when they’ve helped you around the home etc. Let them know how appreciated they are.
If your partner’s love language is gifting, tell them how much you value them and their thoughtfulness. Maybe try to find a gift for them you know they’d appreciate.
Whatever the love language is, if you want to connect with your partner, don’t hold back what you know makes them feel connected to you.
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