Have you wondered why men generally can put issues behind them and women, generally speaking, seem to hold onto issues?
This is because men and women are wired differently.
Generally speaking, men are solution-focused and want to “fix” a problem and because of this, they don’t understand why their partner wants to hold onto what was said during conflict.
It isn’t that a woman “wants” to hold onto the issues it is because generally speaking, women are wired emotionally.
So what does this mean?
What this means is women can be wounded emotionally by their partner’s words, tone of voice and or body language during conflict.
This makes it difficult for a woman to move past the conflict.
Their partner can apologise for hurting them, however, this does not mean their wound has been instantly healed.
It will take time and their partner will need to be patient.
If there is continual conflict, her heart is not being given a chance to heal.
A woman needs to feel heard during conflict so talking over her is not hearing her.
When one person is continually talked over, they will either become reactive and yell to be heard or they will shut down.
If you want to connect to your partner, listen to her.
There are more important things than the current subject you are fighting over, like the relationship.
If someone is continually shut down in conflict, they will pull away emotionally and physically.
Is the conflict worth losing the love and respect of your partner?
There will always be issues to resolve but if you aren’t willing to listen to your partner’s perspective your relationship will have an expiry date.
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