It is so easy to get caught up in issues and forget about what is really important….. your relationship.
Issues are driven by pain, feelings of not being heard, an ongoing unresolved issue.
Unresolved issues can lead to criticism, contempt, anger, distance, disconnection, and loneliness.
Conflict is about needs not being met.
Every relationship will have conflict because people have needs and a need to be heard.
Separate the issues from the person.
Don’t be scared of conflict.
What is important is to listen and validate each other.
Not acknowledging what each of you are saying is what stops the issues from being resolved.
When a person isn’t validated for their feelings, or what they have contributed to the relationship, this causes an emotional wound that blocks emotional trust in the relationship.
Try to recognise triggers from childhood trauma or past relationships during conflict.
Past hurt can or wounds can be triggered in conflict.
Acknowledging each other’s value will save the relationship and work towards resolving the issues.
Remember, the number one priority is to keep the relationship healthy using unconditional love and forgiveness.
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