Are you having communication problems in your relationship and want to know how to fix communication in a relationship? Keep reading for common reasons that cause poor communication and for tips on how to improve communication in your relationship.
Causes of Lack of Communication in a Relationship
A person needs to feel emotionally safe with their partner to be vulnerable with them.
There are many reasons why a person chooses not to communicate with their partner. Some of these reasons are:
- Fear of ridicule.
- Fear of hurting the other person.
- Fear of the other person exploding.
- Fear of being misunderstood.
- Fear of not connecting.
As a child has been conditioned to not have a voice.
If the person is constantly criticised by their partner they will not feel emotionally safe to speak up and or share their opinion.
A person will not communicate if the pattern of communication is unresolved conflict.
A person will avoid communicating if there is a pattern of past issues thrown back at them because they try to raise issues.
Maybe there is a pattern of yelling and screaming or dismissing the person who is trying to share feelings.
Is your partner met with sarcasm when trying to share their feelings?
When you try to communicate with your partner are you met with silence?
Maybe your partner’s tone of voice or body language is sensitive.
How to Fix Communication in a Relationship?
- Let your partner know you are ready to listen when they feel comfortable to talk.
- Be prepared to validate any shared feelings.
- Try not to take offence at anything that is shared.
- Do not interrupt your partner, deflect, blame or justify issues they raise.
- Try to keep your tone gentle and body language non-aggressive.
- Own your own behaviour that might be raised.
If you make a habit of approaching subjects in this manner your partner will feel comfortable in communication.
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