What does this look like and how it affects your relationship.
Holding your partner in contempt creates a lot of conflict, disrespect and criticism.
Contempt causes disconnection in communication, and your physical and emotional connection.
It shuts down your partner and destroys their self worth.
With the high amount of criticism which is a result of contempt, it causes the partner to lose respect for their partner and trust issues around vulnerability.
Each person’s role within their relationship is to create an emotionally safe space with which to grow as a couple through love, support and valuing each other, however contempt does the opposite.
It causes the partner holding contempt to devalue their partner, become highly critical of them and even regret being with them because they no longer appreciate their value and their partner can feel all of this so they begin to pull away.
With contempt, you may stop considering their opinion on joint decisions and you stop being considerate towards your partners needs.
The partner who is held in contempt, may stop communicating their needs in fear of ridicule. This could result in the partner agreeing with everything because they don’t feel their partner cares enough to listen or consider them.
If this is your relationship, changes need to be made.
Try building up your partner instead of pulling them down.
If they like flowers or a specific chocolate, bring this home for them to show you appreciate and value them as your partner.
Leave love messages around and or send love txts.
Start asking their opinion on joint decisions and actually listen to their perspective.
Start becoming affectionate again, holding them gently and speaking to them in gentle tones instead of the harsh tones you may have fallen into.
This is reversible but if contempt continues, you will lose your partner if they haven’t checked out already.
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