When one partner is in emotional distress and their partner neglects to show empathy it pushes the hurting partner away because they do not feel valued, supported or loved.
On the other hand, when one partner is hurting and the other partner offers empathy and compassion, the hurting partner maybe the one who rejects their partner’s efforts to connect.
If both scenarios are happening simultaneously, it results in two hurting and lonely people.
If one partner constantly criticises the other person, continually shows their annoyance or challenges every thing they say, it causes the other person to pull away.
The critical partner has allowed their issues to come between them.
It makes it harder when one person wants to communicate the issues and the other partner refuses to communicate by shutting down any attempts their partner makes, or errupts defensively or storms off.
The issues remain unresolved as the couple drift further apart.
One partner maybe needing more physical intimacy with their partner while the other person needs more emotional connection.
The partner needing more physical intimacy may pull away due to feeling rejected which also pushes away the partner needing emotional connection.
If the critical partner is the one needing physical affection, they stops any chance of their partner wanting to be physical with them because they feel they can’t do or say anything right. This makes them feel insecure in the relationship.
Both partner’s may feel their expressed needs are being ignored and therefore both people are feeling unloved or not valued in the relationship.
If one partner ignores the other person’s attempts to reach out to them, eventually this partner will stop reaching out altogether.
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