Future faking is the way it sounds.
Future faking is when a Narcissist promises the world at the start of the relationship to get the person they are trying to snag.
They make promises such as marriage, living together and or buying a house together, having children together, starting a business together, maybe going to the gym together etc but they never follow through.
Instead, the unsuspecting partner gets excuses when they challenge the promises such as “Oh, let’s wait and save up for the engagement ring or the wedding.
Let’s do it right so we can invite family and friends. We don’t want to rush into anything!”
Or “It’s not the right time to start a business. I have to look into it further.”
Or “You go to the gym on your own. I’m going to do work around the house.”
Before you realise it, 6 months have gone past and all the promises made in the beginning still haven’t happened.
A Narcissist knows the right thing to say to get the date!
Not only did they never have any intention of following through but they also pushed their own agenda onto their partner which may go against their partner’s boundaries.
They’ll also deplete their partner’s resources, use them for accommodation by insisting on moving in immediately and even using them for transport.
The partner is being used and the boundaries abused which may also come with psychological, verbal, coercive and even physical abuse.
The whole relationship is built on deception and manipulation while sucking all the emotional energy out of their partner, leaving them mentally exhausted and asking themselves
“What just happened!!” When it all ends.
If the Narcissist isn’t getting their needs met from their supply, they’ll move on to the next relationship before ending the one they’re in.
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