Freezing out (also referred to as stone walling), occurs when there are long term relationship issues,creating contempt and criticism.
Freezing out can be a result of ongoing feelings of not being heard, shutdown, talked over and not listened to. All of these feelings cause a person to pull away from their partner, causing loneliness in the relationship. This results in two people living as flat mates under the same roof.
Freezing out your partner might feel like it’s working for you, however, this is a defence response of self protection.
Freezing out your partner drives two people apart because you shutdown any positive emotions towards your partner.
Some of the reasons why a person freezes out their partner are:
To punish.
To control the other person.
To avoid conflict.
Because the person feels psychologically overwhelmed.
They don’t feel loved, valued, supported or a priority.
Freezing out your partner creates an imbalance of power in the relationship.
The way to resolve issues is communication.
When a person feels overwhelmed in conflict, it is ok to ask for time out from the conflict until you both have calmed down and return to the conversation later.
It is important to allow the person who needs time out space to gather their thoughts whether it be 30 minutes or a few hours.
Positive communication is the key.
Communication includes listening, validation of feelings and considering the other person’s perception.
I can teach each person communication skills and tools to take away to resolve issues.
For a booking today, click on the link below.
