No one likes to be dismissed in their relationship when trying to have a conversation with their partner.
It makes the other person feel not heard or valued to their partner.
When one person talks over their partner with their own conversationsation, it makes their partner feel what they have to say is not important.
Here are some reasons why your partner may be dismissing what you you have to say, or shutting you down by talking over you.
It can be a communication style they learnt from their family system. You may find your partner’s family members do it to each other.
When this communication style is typical of that family, family members may learn to yell to be heard in conflict.
Your partner may use sarcasm, insults, or even ignoring you as a way to dismiss your concerns.
This can be a sign of anger, resentment and even contempt.
Your partner may have a fear of being vulnerable for fear of being criticised.
Your partner may have difficulty communicating feelings, wants and desires because of underlying insecurities.
A history of trauma can affect communication styles and relationship dynamics leading to dismissive behaviours and avoiding emotional intimacy.
Mental health conditions affect communication styles which may also lead to dismissive behaviours or a lack of empathy and self-reflection.
When there is a power struggle in the relationship, dismissive behaviours can be a way to exert dominance over their partner.
Jealousy can cause dismissal and deflection stemming from insecurities.
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