Criticism of your partner is one of the quickest ways of damaging the connection in a relationship.
Criticism pulls apart your partner instead of building them up.
It looks for your partner’s flaws rather than focusing on your partner’s value.
E.g. “You never help around the house! You’re so lazy!!”
This is criticism.
This creates defensiveness, and causes the other person to shutdown and pull away.
Instead, as a couple, focus on needs and feelings, instead of blame.
E.g. “It makes me feel anxious when the house work piles up. Could we do this together and get through it quicker.”
Criticism drives couples apart. Curiosity and compassion bring a couple together and builds on trust, and the emotional and physical connection.
Criticism says “You don’t have my back.” “I don’t feel valued by you.”
“I don’t matter to you.”
“I’m not a priority to you.”
“I don’t feel loved by you.”
“l can’t get anything right.”
“I can’t make my partner happy.”
Showing up for your partner sounds like:
“I love you.”
“I’m so glad we are together.”
“I’m sorry forcwhatcI said to you. You didn’t deserve it.”
“I can see you are struggling. How can I support you.”
Showing up for your partner strengthens the bond between you both.
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