When you are attracted to someone and you want to begin a relationship,
It is important to have the necessary conversations.
All too often couples invest in relationships only to discover 5 – 10 yrs into the future that their partner has fixed views on children etc. Does one person give up their dreams to save their marriage, walk away from the marriage or give their partner what they want but secretly resent their partner for the rest of the relationship?
Children
Do you both want children?
How far into the future?
How many children?
Do you want your children attending a Religious or Public School?
Do you believe in sending your child to Pre-school?
Faith
What are your faith beliefs?
Do you both have the same beliefs?
Goals
What are your goals and dreams?
Do they line up together?
Pets
Do either of you want pets and if so are you both in agreement on dogs, cats, birds, horses, cows etc.
Career
Do both of you want a career?
If not, who will work?
Who will work when children come along if any?
What about if someone’s career takes them away travelling? What then?
Home
Do you both want to work towards owning your own home?
Or does one of you want to live on property?
Location
Where do you want to live?
In the city, country, near the ocean?
Finances
Do you agree on joint bank accounts, personal Bank Accounts, a savings only Account?
Travel
Do you both want to travel overseas, around Australia or locally?
How often do you want to travel?
Family
Is family important to you?
Will you support your partner’s family?
Do you believe involving your family in your relationship issues?
Chores
Will you both share in the household duties, cooking, cleaning, laundry, vacuuming etc?
Interests
What are your interests?
Will you support each other’s activities?
Do you have activities in common or do activities you can do together?
TV
How similar are your TV programs?
Maybe one only likes war history and documentaries while the other person likes romantic comedy series.
Sports
What sports do you both support?
Can you cope devoting your weekend to Football or cricket?
To keep a healthy relationship, you may need to make compromises, or negotiate time on your own for autonomy.
It is important to listen to your partner and not demand your own way.
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