Depending on the family you grew up in will determine if you run toward conflict or away from conflict because of how conflict makes you feel.
As a child, if you came from a high conflict family with lots of yelling and screaming, you may carry childhood trauma because of the way conflict made you feel as a child.
Or if you came from a household that had conflict but it was navigated in a positive manner, you may have seen resolutions and therefore you understand healthy conflict is a way to discuss needs.
When two people have had two very different experiences with conflict in their family home, they are going to react differently to conflict.
One person may react to tone of voice while the other person may think their partner is over reacting.
It is important both people in the relationship have their needs met by their partner and not feel their needs are not a priority.
Validating each other’s feelings and perspective will go along way in bonding the two people together in the relationship.
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