Generally speaking, men and women are wired differently.
Men are wired to be solution focused, to think practically, while women are wired emotionally.
What this means is, for a woman it is about how a conversation makes her feel, how tone of voice makes her feel, how body language and facial expressions make her feel. How an event makes her feel.
Men, generally speaking, can move on from an argument, especially if they’re the ones who have thrown out the words, however for a woman, because she is emotionally wired, she will hold onto the way those words made her feel. She can see the way that person looked in her mind as those words were thrown at her.
For her, it can be like 1000 paper cuts to her heart.
In effect, she has been left emotionally bleeding because for her it is about how those words made her feel.
For a woman to get past this hurt, if it is her partner who has caused the deep wounds, he will need to validate the pain his words have caused her.
This means to accept his words have caused his partner great emotional pain.
Sometimes in conflict couples throw out one liners in frustration or not knowing how to “fix things” in their relationship, not considering who those words are targeting.
Below are one liners that should never be used in conflict.
“Why don’t you just leave!!”
“I might as well pack my bags and leave!!”
“You’re just like your mother!!”
“You’re just like your father!!
“I wish I never married you!!”
“I want a divorce!!”
“We should separate!!”
These words stay with a woman for years. Once these words have been said, she no longer feels secure in the relationship and will begin to pull away emotionally, physically, and in her communication while the man may even forget he said these words years later.
If you have grown apart in your relationship I can give you both the tools to find your way back to each other.
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