What is your body language and tone of voice saying to your partner?
It isn’t just about the content of the conversation. You also need to be aware of the volume of your words and your body language.
Some people are affected by tone of voice and body language before they hear the content of the message.
Tone of voice and body language can cause the other person to shut down before their partner has finished talking.
You could be having a conversation sitting down together but if one person is leaning toward their partner in an aggressive manner and using a loud tone with words that carry a negative connotation, the other person will shut down and there will not be a resolution.
Negative connotations are:
- You always….
- Knowing you, you’ll do this!!
- We both know what you’re like!!
- You just want your own way!!
- I already know the answer!!
There are many more phrases like this which will result in a lose/lose for both people and leaving one partner feeling attacked. This will affect the couples emotional and physical connection.
