Do you get told you can’t feel the way you feel?
Are you abused for reacting to your partner’s behaviour towards you?
Are you blamed for your partner’s abuse?
“You made me like this!”
I only said that because of what you said to me!”
“If you hadn’t said this to me I wouldn’t have hit you!”
This is also referred to as gaslighting.
Another form of gaslighting is
“I didn’t make you feel this way!”
“You know you have a bad memory!”
“Even your family says you’re crazy!”
“You know your family says you overreact!”
“You’re crazy! You know that don’t you!”
“I’m really getting worried about your memory!”
Maybe your partner is controlling.
“I don’t want you seeing that person! They’re not a good influence on you!”
“I don’t want you seeing your family anymore! They don’t like me! I don’t like the way they look at me!”
“I don’t want you to work. You can stay home and raise the kids!”
You might not think you’re in an abusive relationship because you are not being hit.
Abuse comes in many forms.
Below are examples of abuse.
Verbal abuse. Yelling, screaming and or being called names.
Psychological abuse. Putdowns, undermining, belittled, told you’re no good, you’re dumb, stupid, hopeless, loser, failure, lazy, etc.
Coercive abuse. Partner throwing things in your direction or away from you.
Smashing your things, punching holes in the wall, doors, breaking objects etc.
Financial abuse. Controlling how much you spend, taking your income, not allowing you to work, etc.
Sexual abuse. Demanding sex when you are sick, or tired, abusing or forcing you to have sex against your will, humiliating you because you don’t want to have sex.
Body shaming.
Spiritual abuse. Humiliating you because of religious beliefs, stopping you from going to Church, using Bible passages to control you and or putting shame and guilt on you.
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