Narcissists do not take responsibility for their own failings. They will blame others for the way their life has turned out. They do not cope if their life doesn’t resemble what they had in mind.
If a narcissist is depressed, you might ask them what the issue is. No doubt the answer you will receive is you’re the cause of their depression.
Narcissists always need their ego boosted. They are not happy unless someone is singing their praises. If the person they’re in a relationship with isn’t singing their praises, they’ll manipulate the situation so the person they’re in a relationship with will feel obliged to praise them. This will be a daily chore for the person in a relationship with a narcissist.
This is because Narcissists have an unhealthy sense of entitlement.
Because of their sense of entitlement, they do not respect boundaries. What is theirs is theirs but what is yours is also theirs. They are very rigid about protecting their posessions while either claiming yours, giving your most prize posession away to a friend, throwing out what is important to you or even giving your kids something youve been saving to eat later. Their lack of respect for boundaries knows no limits.
Because of their lack of boundaries, they do not have an issue with going through your mail, your mobile phone messages or even your child’s diary.
Narcissists have to be the centre of attention. If they’re not, they’ll literally make everyone’s day miserable. You may have noticed they cause drama on someone elses birthday, Father’s day, Mother’s day or even while away on a holiday with you etc. This is because they haven’t been the centre of everyone’s attention.
Narcissists can not show empathy and they aren’t forgiving. They hold grudges and will work towards their revenge. The victim may be warned as a threat and or the threat will be carried out.
Narcissists are bullies when they can’t get their own way in a relationship. They will use threats to get their own way. If there are children in the relationship, the threat will be aimed at the children to control the other parent.
Narcissists dont really love. They play the part of someone in a loving relationship but it isnt genuine. They may act out they love the other person in the relationship but it will not come without an agenda.
The narcissist does not cope if their partner has higher qualifications than themself and or if their partner is on a higher income. They may appear to be supportive and even verbilise their support but on the inside they are seething.
To the outside world a narcissist plays their role well. They’re insecure and need the worlds approval while at home they’re arrogant.
The narcissist can abuse their partner continually for years until their victim finally breaks and begins to put boundaries up. The narcissist then cries victim to all who will listen while labelling the victim as the abuser.
The narcissist can be so authentic that the victim begins to think they themself are really the abuser. Especially if the narcissist leaves them, leaving the victim wondering how they could have been a better partner.
There is no reasoning with a narcissist. You might as well be trying to reason with a toddler. They do not know the word comprimise.
The victim in the relationship with a narcissist maybe trauma bonded and if they’re an empath, will believe if they stay with the narcissist longer, they can change them through loving them. The victim eventually comes to terms with the reality that their partner is never going to change because nothing is ever the fault of the narcissist. Any issues in the relationship belong to the victim because narcissists can not take criticism.
If you can relate to the information here, you are in a relationship with a narcissist.
