Showing up for your partner means different things to different people so it is important to understand your partner’s needs.
Showing up means actively listening to your partner without distractions. This means look at your partner while they are talking and validate their feelings and perception on an issue.
It includes not zoning out or thinking about what you want to say or talking over them.
Showing up also includes doing things with them even if you’re not interested.
Making your partner a hot drink because you know they like it, even if you’re not making one for yourself.
Making arrangements for date nights or just setting time aside for quality time together.
Sending affectionate texts regularly and reminding them verbally you love them.
Don’t wait to be asked before doing nice things for your partner.
To the men, open her car door before she enters, pull her chair out at a restaurant, ask her what she would like to eat or drink.
If you go away together, carry her luggage for her.
Doing these things does not take away from your relationship. It adds value and makes your partner feel loved and valued.
To the women.
Validate your partner’s efforts in the home and when he does things to please you.
Show him respect by being his emotional support.
Connect with him on an emotional and physical level.
The most important way of showing up for each other is to leave out abuse, calling each other names, swearing and yelling during conflict.
Showing up means creating a place of safety to raise issues by listening and validating each others feelings and perception.
When your partner raises an issue, that is not the time to raise your issues too without resolving the issues of your partner first.
If you do, it will leave your partner not feeling heard or seen and they will stop communicating with you.
This will cause an emotional and physical disconnection.
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