There are a number of reasons why a man responds to his wife when she tries to express her feelings.
These reasons can be emotional, psychological or situational.
1. Fear of criticism/judgement. A low self image may cause him to become protective of himself.
2. He may feel vulnerable or inadequate because he doesn’t have a solution.
3. He maybe conflict avoidant and therefore resond defensively to avoid dealing with the issues and the emotions.
4. He may simply not know how to express, receive or process emotions.
5. He might feel misunderstood or blamed though this may not be his wife’s intentions.
6. There maybe unresolved issues, past trauma and past emotional baggage which triggers old emotions and wounds. His defensive response maybe rooted in anger, resentment and unhealed pain.
7. His defensiveness maybe rooted in miscommunication. He may misinterpret the intention behind his wife’s message and assume she is attacking him.
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