Why is Coercive abuse is still abuse when it is not physical abuse and what is it?
There are people living in domestic violence in their relationships but do not recognise their relationship as abusive because there is no physical abuse.
So what is classed as abuse?
Coercive abuse/coercive control.
Gaslighting.
Financial control.
Sexual abuse.
Spiritual abuse, (Religious abuse. Ridiculing another person’s beliefs.)
Psychological abuse.
Verbal abuse.
Reactionary abuse is not abuse. A person has endured ongoing abuse and is finally pushed beyond what they can cope with and finally defends themselves. This brings self shame upon the victim.
Coercive abuse.
Coercive abuse/coercive control includes punching holes in doors and or walls. Intent is to intimidate.
Throwing items across a room or at the victim.
Smashing items. Banging fist on a bench or table etc.
Yelling, screaming with intent to intimidate and control.
Blaming victim for their own behaviour.
Swearing with intent of intimidation and control.
Micro manages victims mobile phone for its content, calls, messages, social media etc.
Tells victim who they can and can’t see.
Does not allow victim to leave the home without them.
Financially controls victim such controlling their income, takes their income, victim does not have their own account or savings but abuser does.
Abuser demands to have all assets in their name only and or victim only has debts in their name. Later on if there is separation the victim does not own the assets because they are in abuser’s name. Victim is left with only debts. Victim can be forced to leave the home because home is not in their name.
Is given minimal money for groceries and is abused for not buying enough food.
Victim is stopped from leaving to go to work.
Partner is insecure/jealous of people you talk to and consistently accuses you of cheating, flirting, dressing for other men, accuses other men of looking at you, accuses you of cheating if you are not “home on time.”
If you are scared to talk in front of your partner in fear of their reaction, if you have to read your partner’s body language when they walk through the door to gauge their mood, or you have learnt what subjects not to mention to avoid conflict and or rage, you blame yourself for your partner’s reaction and moods,
E.g. “I shouldn’t have said that.”
“I didn’t wash my coffee cup up.”
You are living in an abusive relationship.
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