This is a fast method to slowly chip away at your partner, destroying their self esteem and self worth.
E.g.
“You never do anything right!”
“You never listen! I don’t know why I bother saying anything at all!”
“I’d love you better if you lost weight!”
“Why can’t you be more like Mary’s husband!”
Comparing your partner is setting yourselves up for the end of the relationship.
“I do way more around here than you do! You’re so lazy!”
“Why did you do that! This is all your fault!”
Blaming your partner for things out of your control.
“You need to earn more money!”
Or “Couldn’t they find anyone else to do that job! That’s the only reason you were asked!”
Criticism comes from many different reasons such unmet expectations, feeling insecure themselves, wishing their life had turned out differently so they’re frustrated with their life for making wrong choices in their careers.
Quite often the attacks have nothing to do with the other person as it is all about how the attacker feels about themselves.
It is easier said than done, however try not to take the criticism personally and remember it is more often about how the other person feels about themselves and their own life.
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