Behaviour from both parties has a lot to do with the relationship flowing, becoming “stuck” or falling apart.
What do I mean by this?
When both parties feel loved and supported in the relationship, they are confident, happy, and even independent. They feel the confidence to be themselves, career driven if that is a dream of theirs, and will set future goals with each other.
A couple who feel loved and supported will spend quality time together and seek each other out.
They listen to each other rather than being defensive because they feel emotionally safe with one another.
After conflict they are still best friends and lovers.
A couple who feel loved and supported put each other first, compromise and consider one another in their responses and making decisions.
Couples who do not feel safe and secure in their relationship pull away from each other. They avoid quality time together, their communication style is short, spiteful, sarcastic, yell above each other because they don’t feel heard, and may give one another the silent treatment for long periods of time without resolving conflict. This causes the same issues to repeat themselves during conflict.
When a couple do not feel secure, they begin to do activities on their own, avoiding time together.
They operate as flat mates on a daily basis, just communicating to get the chores done or to take kids to sports etc.
A couple who are not connected will not consider their partner in their daily activities, conversations or goals. Their future dreams do not include their partner.
If you would like to turn your relationship around, consider counselling to learn the tools for communication and conflict resolution.
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