Your partner could be undiagnosed ADHD. Many adults are not diagnosed until their children are, when they realise they are similar to their child or they had similar struggles in school.
ADHD is developed in childhood and persists as an adult because of life stresses.
The partner who does not have ADHD may find it frustrating in the relationship and even lonely because of ADHD traits in their partner.
The partner who does not have ADHD may feel unheard, not validated or valued, not supported and may have given up asking their partner to do anything because they know it won’t get done.
They don’t feel they are a priority in the relationship because what is important to them is not important to their partner.
Or so it seems.
So what does ADHD look like in your partner or yourself?
Always being on the go and unable to keep still. Very fidgety.
Disorganization.
E.g. “organised messes” throughout the house, in the bedroom/s or garage.
Impulsivity. This could include buying expensive items, sudden trips away or day trips.
Inattentiveness. In conversations the partner looks like they have tuned out because they either appear to drift off such as looking away while in conversation or they might suddenly change the subject.
This also comes under lack of focus, appear to not be listening.
Not paying attention to detail.
Lacks motivation to do things or complete tasks. This is why projects are started but not completed.
This also includes poor time management.
Restlessness.
Talking excessively and interrupting others.
Issues around following instructions.
May need to be reminded to complete tasks, clarification or instructions may need to be repeated.
Have trouble regulating emotions. Can be short fused.
Very forgetful of important dates, appointments or events. They may come across as uncaring, or unreliable.
Speaking without thinking. Offends people family members and or friends. May also make irresponsible decisions including around finances and contribute to reckless behaviour.
May not complete tasks in the home such as washing up, hanging out or bringing in the washing, vacuuming part of the house only.
This leaves the partner without ADHD feeling like they’re carrying more of the load.
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