To start with slow to anger, slow to speak and quick to forgive.
What this looks like is, instead of getting angry because something hasn’t gone your way, you’ve had a bad day at work, the kids are fighting, the house is a mess because the kids haven’t followed through with instructions from you, etc; have a calm conversation with your partner.
Your family is not your emotional punching bag.
Respect goes a long way into keeping your relationship a happy one.
Respecting each others boundaries is essential.
Keep your voice and words soft to each other.
No yelling, swearing, etc.
Yelling doesn’t make you heard.
The other person will either yell louder or shut down and retreat, pulling away emotionally, physically and in their communication.
Don’t talk down to each other, undermine your partner or put them down, especially in front of the children.
Listen to each other.
Listen to understand, not to get the next word in.
Don’t shut the other person down by continually talking over them, or dismissing what they have to say.
Forgive the other person.
When you are the one who has hurt the other person, apologise and change the behaviour.
If you apologise but nothing changes, your partner will not take you seriously the next time you apologise.
They will lose respect for you and begin to pull away because they don’t feel loved or valued.
Quality time together is essential.
This is the time to get your emotional batteries recharged.
This is the time to come together and talk about the relationship on a deeper level.
It is also important to give each other time out of the relationship for a couple of hours a week by recharging doing activities you each enjoy such as the gym, surfing, going for a walk, bike riding or even coffee with friends as long as both partners get to do this regularly for themselves but not at a time your partner needs you to help with the kids such as bathing, bed time, getting dinner when there are also children/child/baby.
Always be considerate of your partner’s needs too.
Be each other’s number one cheer leader. Support each other’s goals and dreams.
Don’t put your put your partner under the bus in front of others.
This will cause your relationship to break down due to a lack of trust and will corrode your relationship.
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