Often a person will not recognise abuse in their relationship.
Misconceptions about abuse.
It is only physical.
“It’s not abuse because he/she doesn’t hit me.”
“He/she isn’t abusive because he/she doesn’t leave bruising.”
“He/she only yells at me.”
“If I do as I’m told it will get better.”
“It was my fault. I knew if I said …….it would make him/her angry.”
“It isn’t abuse because he/she isn’t like that every day.”
Truth.
Abuse doesn’t have to occur every day and this is how you know you are in an abusive cycle. In an abusive cycle there are “good days” which makes you think things are getting better and will continue to get better if you say the right things or do the right things.
Abuse is when you have had to learn to read their body language and listen for their tone of voice so you know what you can and can’t say.
Abuse is when you feel you have to walk on “eggshells’ to keep the peace in the home.
Abuse is when your partner throws your mobile phone or anything else across the room to intimidate, control or threaten you.
Abuse is when your partner looks like they’re going to punch you but punches the wall next to your face.
Abuse is when your partner slams doors to scare or intimidate you.
Abuse is when your partner takes control over your finances.
Abuse is when your partner deliberately speeds excessively with you in the car. There is no love or care shown towards protecting you.
Abuse is when your partner swears at you and or calls you derogatory names.
Abuse is when your partner yells at you.
If you recognise any of these signs in your relationship, click on the link for a booking today. You need immediate support.
