How to have a better marriage.
Consider each other in all things.
What does this look like?
Ask yourself the question
“How will my words affect my partner?”
“How will my actions affect my partner?”
“How will both my words and actions affect our relationship?”
If both people are considering the other, this means each of you are putting the other person before yourselves.
Do not raise your voice to each other in conflict.
Do not resort to calling each other names and or swearing at each other.
This comes under coercive abuse and domestic violence, especially in front of kids.
I have had couples say to me all our friends swear at each other. It’s normal!
I have explained if this is how their friends speak to each other, they too are in domestic violence!
Domestic violence is not just physical.
It can be the words you use, yelling and screaming, pushing and shoving each other, threatening to punch your partner and or the wall or door, throwing things or throwing things at the other person, financial control, sexual abuse, blaming the other person for your behaviour.
As a couple we need to do better and be better towards each other.
We do not need to use the lowest denominator as our measuring stick.
We need to raise our standards and treat each other with kindness, respect, unconditional love, consideration, validation, listening and valuing each other.
Encourage each other, build each other up, tell each other 3 things a day that you like about them.
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