When things are going well in your relationship you might avoid bringing up something your partner has said or done and you put it under the proverbial rug because you don’t want things to change.
While the things that hurt you remain buried, you hold onto resentment, criticism and contempt.
This leads to pulling away from your partner emotionally, physically and in your communication.
It doesn’t stop there. If for example your partner has called you names or criticised you in any way, the next time they complain about something you have said or done to them, you are more likely to deflect and bring up everything that has been done and or said to you.
It is better to let your partner know when they have hurt you. Raise it at a time you are both in the right head space to discuss it. Work towards a resolution.
Try not to be defensive.
Don’t be afraid to approach an issue for fear of conflict. Conflict is meant to be used as a relationship tool put a light on the needs not being me for each partner.
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