Mistakes we make in a Narcissistic relationship.
1. Believing the love bombing stage.
The potential partner tells the person they want to entice what they know they want to hear.
They mimic the victim’s personality, character, likes and hobbies to win them over.
They romance the victim and make promises they have no intention of keeping.
2. Staying for the potential.
The victim stays in the relationship for many reasons.
- Because of low self-worth, they don’t want to disappoint.
- They believed in the love bombing stage.
- The Narcissist has already done so much for them in the relationship the Narcissist makes the victim feel obligated or guilty if they try to insist on their boundaries or try to break off the relationship.
- The victim’s self-worth is so low they believe this is how relationships are and they need to accept it.
- The victim doesn’t want to be alone again so they stay believing they have companionship.
3. Justifying the red flags.
The victim acknowledges the red flags, however, they replace the red flags with “no one is perfect.”
They’re not willing to walk away from the red flags because by now the victim is “inlove” with the Narcissist.
They begin to believe the Narcissist’s gaslighting tactics because the Narcissist is so convincing.
4. Making excuses for bad behaviour, disrespect, deception, poor treatment.
“Oh they’re just having a bad day” or “They haven’t healed from their last relationship”, or “Maybe it’s me.”
5. Waiting for the relationship to return to what it was in the beginning.
The problem here is what they fell in love with in the beginning was never real.
The victim tells themself it’s just a phase they’re going through.
By now the Narcissist has begun to show their real character and has put down their own rules while ignoring and stomping over the victim’s boundaries demanding from the victim their own demands to be met.
This renders the victim helpless.
If the Narcissist is Covert, mutual friends or friends of the victim who have been out with the “happy couple” have been hypnotised by the Narcissist’s charm.
The victim feels isolated to make a decision to leave because
- They’re embarrassed because they believed the Narcissist’s love bombing stage of flattery and charm.
- Their friends believed the Narcissist was genuine and personable.
- They don’t believe their friends will believe them when they reveal any form of abuse they endured.
The victim becomes dissolutioned within the relationship, second guesses their decisions, become depressed, disheartened, and unmotivated the longer the relationship continues.
