You might be better than you think.
Have you thought about what it is you are communicating to your partner?
What are your actions and words telling your partner?
Does your partner feel valued by your actions?
What do I mean by this?
Let’s say your partner wanted you to reduce the amount you drink at night after work because it changed your mood towards the family or because your partner can’t rely on you the next morning to support her with the children because you will sleep for most of the day.
Instead of respecting your partner’s boundaries around this issue, you decide to drink as much as you normally would.
What message do you think this is sending to your partner?
Your partner will receive the message you do not value them enough to change your habits.
It also sends the message they can’t rely on you and your partner will not feel heard.
This will cause resentment, anger, and criticism, and your partner will pull away emotionally and physically.
If this continues long-term your relationship will have an expiry date.
What your partner is looking for from you is for your actions to communicate they are loved, valued and heard by you.
Conversations need to take place as to why your partner feels the way they do and why this issue is important to them.
Both of you can talk about your feelings around the issues and come to a compromise.
It is important for both of you to feel heard and understood.
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