Men and women are wired differently.
Generally speaking, men tend to get over arguments almost immediately, especially if there has been an apology from another man.
For a woman, generally speaking, they are emotionally wired. What this means is a woman may wound easily.
If a woman does not have the opportunity to talk about what has hurt her emotionally, she may hold onto it for hours, days, weeks, months and even years if the same behaviour towards her consistently takes place.
A man may expect his partner to just move on because he has apologised but it is not that straightforward for a woman.
When his partner is emotionally wounded, she will pull away emotionally, physically and even stop all communication.
If the behaviour is an ongoing pattern, in conflict she may have subconsciously written the script of how she expects to be treated during and after conflict and react accordingly.
It is important for the man to observe his partner’s body language towards him during and after conflict.
This will tell him if his partner has been emotionally wounded by him.
If she is showing signs of being hurt he can ask her, “What is it you are needing from me? Do you need to talk more about it? Im here to listen.”
What are the signs your partner is still affected by the conflict?
She may be giving you the silent treatment afterwards and or into the next day.
You should be able to read her facial expressions towards you.
When you’re both sitting on the lounge or lying in bed together is she turned away from you?
Is she snappy towards you?
Has she become critical?
Has she pulled away emotionally and physically?
These are just some of the signs to look for.
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