The deadliest killer of relationships apart from abuse and cheating is continuous negativity about the other person.
What we focus on, we magnify.
If you were to buy a red car, suddenly you’d see a lot of red cars everywhere.
If you focus on the negatives of the relationship and or your partner, you will magnify the negatives. You may even confide in friends about your partner’s negative traits or at least annoying habits.
Maybe your partner ALWAYS leaves their clothes on the floor or NEVER picks up after themselves.
Maybe you feel like you’re in a parent/child relationship because you have to remind your partner to pick up after themselves because you’re not their parent who will wait on them hand and foot.
Whatever it is that annoys you about your partner, try focusing on their positive traits and the positives of the relationship.
Maybe your partner is a great cook, welcoming when you come home, and makes you hot drinks when you least expect it.
Maybe you work well as a team, or they’ve taught you skills you didn’t have previously e.g. IT skills, accounting skills, cooking skills.
Maybe your partner is affectionate, supportive, helpful or a fantastic gardener.
Build up your partner every day with encouragement, and positive names and go out of your way to do nice things for them. When you change your thinking about them, you’ll change your mindset about them too.
Negativity affects your emotional and physical connection. It sabotages the relationship and changes the way you speak to your partner and even your body language will change towards them.
Living critically in a relationship is hard work and emotionally exhausting. When you’re negative towards your partner you will assume the worst about them.
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