It is easy to take each other for granted after being together long-term.
You forget about what it took to keep each other in the beginning.
The way you spoke to each other, the dates, making each other a priority, daily phone calls and text messages, maybe gifts along the way and even flowers.
But as time goes on, these things slowly drift away and you stop putting the other person first.
You wonder why you’re not as close as you once were. What has changed?
- Do you take each other for granted?
- Do you put each other first or only think of yourself?
- When you make yourself a hot drink, do you offer your partner the same?
- Do you message each other during the day with love messages of I miss you or can’t wait to see you?
- Do you make your relationship a priority with a date night once a week?
- Do you bring your partner home a treat when you’re out doing the groceries?
These things might seem small, but it’s these little things that add to and build up the relationship.
Grudges
Do you hold onto arguments against your partner?
Do you have a filing cabinet of everything your partner has ever done to use against them during the conflict?
All this does is drive a wedge between you both while eroding the relationship.
Appearance
Have you stopped taking care of your appearance when you’re out with your partner or do you like to dress up for them?
Dressing up for your partner makes you feel good about yourself and reflects how you feel about your relationship while also reflecting how your partner feels about you.
When we feel loved by our partner we want to put the best version of ourselves forward for our partner.
Speaking to each other disrespectfully
The way you speak to each other will also reflect in your relationship.
If you’re in the habit of speaking lovingly to each other at home, it should carry over when you’re out at friends’ and family members’ homes.
This will cause your partner to want to be affectionate with you because of how you make them feel.
In the same way, if you are disrespectful to your partner at home and disrespectful to your partner in front of family and friends, this will drive your partner away. This will develop contempt, criticism, a disconnection emotionally and physically and a breakdown in communication within the relationship.
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