Communication styles in a relationship can make or break a couple.
Everyone needs to feel heard and validated, however, for each person to feel heard and validated this will not be the same for both individuals.
One person may feel hurt by their partner’s words and will need their partner to just validate their feelings but instead, the partner who caused the hurt may reply with
“Well, that’s not how I feel!!”
Or
“You’re just too sensitive!!”
Or
“The other day you said worse to me!!”
Do you think their partner is going to feel validated at that moment?
The answer is no.
Instead, the partner is receiving the message their feelings are wrong and they feel shut down.
What they were needing from their partner at that moment was
“I’m sorry my words hurt you. That wasn’t my intention. I love you and I want to know how can I support you?”
Connecting with your partner in this way will build trust and friendship which are the building blocks of a strong romantic relationship.
Not forcing your view or beliefs onto your partner shows you care and value them.
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