Do you know your partner’s love language?
How would you recognise what your partner’s love language is?
A person will give their partner what they need from their partner.
Your partner might be overly affectionate while you are not.
You might like to give gifts to your partner but your partner isn’t fussed on gifts at all.
You might long for the day when your partner hangs out the washing and vacuums the house.
So have you worked out what the different love languages are yet?
They are affection, gifts, quality time, acts of service, romance etc.
If you’re not affectionate but your partner is, don’t think you can get away with not giving your partner affection. It’s time to change things up and meet their needs.
Take the time to cuddle on the lounge with them while watching TV, holding hands in the car and while out and about.
Shower them with cuddles and kisses. Cuddle in bed at night and in the morning if you’re bed at the same time. This will recharge both your batteries for the day.
Affection doesn’t have to lead to physical intimacy. If one partner feels affection will always lead to sex, this will block any physical intimacy.
Quality time is another important love language. Cuddling on the lounge, watching a movie together, going for walks holding hands, going on day trips in the car or even on the train and dining out are all examples of quality time.
If your partner gives you gifts, it’s time to start buying gifts for your partner. Depending on their gender, it can be anything from flowers and jewellery to their favourite treat or a gift card for a massage etc.
If your partner is the one to do the household chores, start taking some of the load off your partner without hinting to them what you’ve just done.
If your partner has initiated doing some of the things you normally do, it’s a good idea to validate what they’ve done for you so they want to continue helping you. It is important to validate each other’s attempts to meet our needs.
Romance can also be included as watching a movie, going for walks and dining out together.
If you’re wanting to increase the intimacy, the emotional bond, the friendship and romance, it’s time to switch things up in the relationship.
Remember, nothing changes if nothing changes.
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