Are you aware of your partner’s triggers?
Are you aware of your own?
Do you know your partner’s needs and how to meet them?
Communication is the key in any relationship to find out what we don’t know about our partner.
Are you or your partner unknowingly pushing each other away because of childhood or past relationship trauma?
Are you painting each other with the same brush as your abuser?
This can be a subconscious or conscious thing to do.
“You’re just like him/her!!”
Are there trust issues because of past trauma? After abuse it is natural to have your walls up for protection even if there is no reason to do so in your current relationship.
Sometimes we push away the very thing we need in our relationship, e.g. affection and intimacy.
It takes courage to allow someone in and trust you will not be hurt again.
When we carry trauma, we often judge our partner through the same lens of our past abuse and therefore we can be critical of our partner which stops us from drawing close to them.
If this sounds like you and you would like support in your relationship please click on the link below to start the journey of repairing your relationship.
