Attachment Styles are developed in early childhood and affect our relationships in the way we communicate, interact with eachother and how we go about getting our needs met.
A person with a secure attachment style will be secure and confident within themselves and their relationship. They’re happy to be independent and interact with others, getting their own needs met and are able to meet the needs of others.
Someone with an anxious avoidant attachment style will choose someone to fit that maladaptive pattern.
They need to cling to their partner to get their needs met but they choose someone who is distant and hard to connect with.
Someone with the avoidant dismissive attachment style will be distant because they believe to get your needs met you need to act like you don’t have any. They will choose someone who is demanding and even controlling of their attention.
Secure adults are emotionally available to a distressed partner, offering comfort and affection.
A person who has an anxious attachment style feels emotionally starved within the relationship. They’re continually looking toward their partner to rescue them. Rather than receiving the security and safety they crave, their actions push their partner away.
People with a dismissive avoidant attachment style tend to emotionally distant themselves from their partners. Through seeking isolation, they unknowingly adopt a parenting role toward their partner.
They ignore the importance of loved ones, easily detaching themselves from them. They can easily detach from their emotions and feelings during conflict.
A person with a fearful avoidant attachment style has fears of being too close or too distant in their relationships. They attempt to push down their feelings which result in emotional explosions.
They know they need to get close to others to get their needs met but when they do they hurt those close to them.
These people attract volatile relationships. They fear abandonment but fear being intimate.